Many of us have been through grief before- whether it is in the form of losing a loved one or through heartbreak. As author C.S. Lewis once said “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid.” The feeling of numbness, of nervousness associated with loss is one that many of us are familiar with. As we go through grief we often expect ourselves to pull ourselves up again and move on – leaving the grief behind. However, author Nora McInerny who lost her husband, son and father all within a year argues that “we don’t move on from grief, we move forward with it.”
For those of us suffering with grief, we need to have compassion on ourselves, acknowledging that this is a part of life and that we should not be expected to forget what happened to us. For those who have friends and family dealing with grief, we need to be more understanding towards them. It is often challenging to move forward but we need to recognize that this process shapes them as much as success does.
If you are struggling with grief, know that you are not alone and that one day, you too will be able to move forward with it.